I can’t be the only one obsessed with rom-coms. There is something so comforting about them. They make love look magical—like fate is always working behind the scenes to bring two people together. But as inspiring as they are, why must they be so unrealistic?
I don’t even know what to believe when it comes to “love” anymore. My TikTok says one thing, my parents say another, and even these old rom-coms twist my view of what it even is. Is it impossible for girls and guys to get it right again? That’s an honest question. Maybe love has changed, or maybe people have.
Rom-coms like “The Notebook”, “How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days”, “10 Things I Hate About You”, and even some scenes from “Smokey And The Bandit” are so heartwarming.
The moment where two characters go from friends to lovers is enchanting, but then again, I need to bring myself back down to earth and realize how scripted that is. Love doesn’t come with a perfect soundtrack and a well-timed rain scene.
A guy can act like a total gem—he’ll catch your eye, steal your heart, and make you believe in all the things you see in movies. Then, before you know it, he’s off hooking up with some other girl.
It’s a cycle I don’t understand. Is there an age when guys officially grow up? A pivotal moment where they realize that maybe being careless and selfish isn’t the way to go about love?
Maybe it’s time to go out and buy flowers for a girl, take her out to dinner without complaining about the price, open a door for once, and stop using girls like a pair of cheap, reusable headphones on an airplane—used for convenience and left behind still plugged in for someone else to deal with.
Some people think money will buy their partner’s happiness, like getting a Starbucks drink or sending a last-minute gift to make up for their lack of effort.
But in reality, most girls would be happy with the free stuff too. If you can’t buy her flowers, why not pick some? If you don’t have the means to take her out, stay home and cook together. Effort matters more than price tags.
Romance seems dead. Do guys think being romantic is “cringe” or “embarrassing”? When did trying in relationships become something to avoid? If you like someone, LET THEM KNOW. Why does everything feel so wishy-washy now when it comes
to love?
This world is full of liars. At this point, it almost feels like you should just pick the hottest one and call it a day. (I’m kidding—but also not really.) High school relationships are often seen as naive, just “young love,” but they can make moving on and figuring out real love even harder.
I don’t want to bash on all men because some (for example my father) are amazing. And most of this applies to girls too.
In the end, we all need love. If you love someone, tell them. Love them hard. Love them right. Being romantic shouldn’t be something people are afraid of, and that goes for both sides. Maybe it’s time to stop waiting for movie moments and start making our own.
