Spilling the Tea

Girls love the “kiss and tell.”

Girls also love the flirting, the talking, the texting, the possibility of being with that one cute boy.

A good friend might spill the tea on who they want to talk to that night or reveal who the current cute boy they are snapchatting is.

Streaks and Snaps

With the multiple forms of communication today, most relationships don’t start in person, but by starting a streak on Snapchat.

“People usually talk on Snapchat or text,” Audrey Whiteside ‘19 said.

Snapchat takes the pressure off of awkward in-person conversations and can lead to two people planning a hook-up before it happens.  

“Sometimes, yes, people talk about it before, but sometimes it’s nonchalant, you know shoot your shot, shoot your shot,” Ella Pietenpol ‘20 said.  

The Hook-up

“A hook up is making out with someone, potentially with someone who you like and it could escalate to further stuff,” Grace Lee ‘19 said.

Katie Bill ‘20 defined hooking up as, “anything from making out to sex.”

Oftentimes, once a hookup occurs, girls, whether it be through texts or in person, go straight to their friends to share all the juicy details about it.

“We talk about all the details and if it was good or not,” Audrey Whiteside ‘19 said.

“Sometimes no… but usually yes. We talk about how it was, an overall performance rating, and whether we would want to do it again,” Pietenpol ‘20 said.  

A common misconception is that people go to parties just to hook up with someone.

“I would say people go to parties just to have fun, but hooking up might just be a perk for some people,” Pietenpol ‘20 said.

There are many girls in agreement with Pietenpol as they describe parties as places to have fun with your friends, and not just a place to make out with people. On the other hand, people really do go to parties to show off their significant other.

“Yes people go to parties to hook up, you can see someone talking to a certain person,” Bill said.

High school is a very confusing and complex time in all aspects of life, and this includes boys. Hooking up happens a lot in high school, whether it is a one-time thing or the start a new relationship.

Girls have to deal with the strenuous pressures of their appearance and the secret cravings many have of getting into a relationship. The constant pressures to be perfect which derive from social media and boys places a great deal of stress on teenage girls. This is why it is important that girls, along with all high school students, respect their bodies as they journey through four years of incredible chaos.

“It’s okay…dating and hooking up can be scary for many high school students. That is why it is important to have strong peers and adults who can guide you through that process,” health teacher Katie RietKirk said.

Many adults would agree with this statement as they too have had to navigate these uncertain and sometimes scary times like teenagers are now.